To see that you’re not alone gives you inner strength." "I am a different person today than I was five years ago," he adds."I [now] know who I am." GLYDSA has a confidentiality agreement that extends to all its members.
There are also a number of informal groups that meet on a monthly basis for Shabbat meals or Talmud study.
But he would never tell anyone at his shul that he goes to these meetings. Richard Isay, a gay New York-based psychoanalyst, estimates that 15 to 20 percent of gay men marry women–because they want to deny or "cure" their gayness, or want children, or to please their parents.
After a few years, Isay says, many have episodes of unfaithfulness.
And then there are those who lead fully gay lives, ignoring the halakhic [Jewish legal] ban on gay sex. Ovadia lives in a right-wing Orthodox community in New York.
He confessed to his wife that he was gay when she was pregnant with their fourth child.
Filmmaker Sandi Du Bowski, who produced and directed Trembling Before G-d, interviewed hundreds of gay frum (observant) Jews over the past few years for his movie.