All the time I’m running into guys who tell me things like “I’m 36, but I look 30, so I tell women I’m 29.” Less often, though still regularly, I see guys in their 30s and even 40s who try to dress, act, and talk like men in their 20s.
In extreme cases these guys invade the clubs or college campuses to hit on younger women where they often look woefully out of place.
Instead of talking about what to do to attract and date much younger women, something I’ve talked about before, today I’ll discuss what to do.
Definitions As usual, we need to get our definitions straight.
This means that when you’re escalating on a woman, you need to push the envelope.
Even if you think she might consider what you’re doing “creepy”, you need to go for it.
Being fat, or having hair grow out of the side of your neck, or dressing in styles that were outdated 20 years ago might be perfectly okay for provider-hunting women your age, but it won’t be okay for the younger ones.
You are destroying the very thing these Type 2s crave.Younger women, even Type 2s, are hypersensitive about creepy older men, as well they should be (for their own safety reasons).Instead of being a creepy older guy, you need to be a confident, especially if you’re talking over texts, online, or in a public place, and/or if you have not established clear rapport yet. I see way too many older guys who do have chances with younger women completely blow it by being too creepy, too verbally sexual, way too fast.Mistake Number 3: Not Paying Attention To Personal Appearance I’ve already addressed this point before, including in one of the links above, so I’m just going to summarize it here.Some older guys think they can wing it with their personal appearance and look just like a normal, every day guy just like they did back when they were 25.
That doesn’t mean you cross the line, but it does mean you are very aggressive, and err on the side of “creepy” rather than “nice guy”.