Dating advice is outside the scope of this site, with this article being a semi-exception.
Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing.
At other times it's more of a powerful, paralyzing hesitation.
Like they know how they want to act, but an invisible force field is preventing them from doing so.
Initially they manage to come off as calm and charming and make a good impression, but then fall apart when the stakes get higher.
The reason this happens is that when they first run into that women she's new and they haven't had time to overthink things and attach any nervous feelings to her yet.
I'll list some quick suggestions at the end, but for the most part I'll describe the issues shy guys deal with and let you draw your own conclusions about how to act.
She seems attracted and intrigued and like she's waiting for the guy to approach her.
At other time they can force themselves to do it, but they're a total wreck inside the whole time.
One problem that can plague shyer guys is that sometimes their nervousness doesn't appear when they first meet a girl, but comes back to bite them soon after.
We follow the herd toward the obnoxious jerks who hold the longest keg stand at a party and the ones who shower us with compliments at the bar in exchange for a five minute make out session before they are on to the next one.
More often than not, these are the cheaters, the one night stands and the oh-so-familiar guys with “plenty of other options.” It’s time we considered the introvert that stands on the sidelines of a game of beer-pong with the quiet but witty observations.
Here’s why it’s time to take a stand for the quiet guys: It can be easy to get lost in the eyes of smooth talkers, head turners, and the social celebrities of your town, but don’t let the boisterous personality of a guy in the spotlight lure you into a toxic relationship.