Relationship consultant and blogger Telisha N echoes Mindy’s stance: “You may very well be the type of individual who craves routine, organization and predictability in order to think straight, but even the most anal retentive of personalities need a release from the everyday humdrum.” For some girls, predictability in a relationship is boring.An article on explains this, and states that research proves it’s “the feeling of uncertainty [that] really causes the heart to go pitter-patter, not the looks, the back account, the career or the hot body.” Furthermore, an article on Urban Belle states that the nice guy often loses to the bad guy because “women will gladly turn down the guy who actually does what he says (boring) in exchange for the guy who does what he wants (exciting).” Sometimes, being “too nice” just means that a guy is less than bold.Dear April Masini," Every time I meet a beautiful woman she wants to become my friend -- not my girlfriend. Well, you better brace yourself because I’m going to tell you a couple of secrets that you might not want to hear. Look up “nice” in the dictionary and you find: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory.Next thing you know she's off dating some arrogant, a-hole, jerk. In other words, average – not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy.Translation: Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value… The secret to why the cocky guy wins with women, over the nice guy, is that he is perceived as being a stronger, more confident guy with more value. He never invests everything -- his entire being, ego and self worth in what one woman’s response or reaction to him is.He doesn’t gush with compliments; he isn’t always available; he doesn’t give too much; and he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him.“I definitely don’t like to argue, especially on dates, but nothing bugs me more than a guy who agrees with everything I say! Another recent graduate shared her dating experience, adding, “I don’t want to plan the details of the date or determine the entire conversation.A guy needs show some leadership skills, like just telling me where he’s taking me to dinner instead of making me decide,” Melanie B., 21, said.
Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and its outcome.By doing so, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, needy of this woman’s attention, affection and approval – and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes.After all, if he’s already doing and giving everything, without her doing or giving anything – why would she value him? She is not going to value him any more than he values himself.Girls can also be turned off by how easily a guy gives up control.Catrina W., 20, gave her perspective on why a guy who made things too easy for her had to go. If a guy doesn’t have boundaries, it becomes much too easy to walk all over him, and I don’t even mean to,” she stated.
“For me, being “too nice” means that a guy isn’t adventurous or risky enough.