It seems to me that even just making friends is a challenge for people these days . It seems my son’s friends aren’t that into dating for the most part. Agreed that lots of people think it’s not worth the effort.At his age, I was pretty much making out whenever I got the chance. Take away the possibility of getting laid, and most introverts don’t want to bother.Honestly, I don’t really feel like I missed out–I tend to view casual dating as a waste of time and never met anyone before ****** who I wanted a serious relationship with.” “Right, but that’s part of the problem, I think.In non-LDS worlds, dating isn’t serious business, and it’s not about only going out with people you want a serious relationship with.As a borderline narcissistic introvert, you might be surprised to learn that I have friends, even friends from many different lands (states) and persuasions. Of course the rest of you won’t be surprised at all. Here, in no particular sequence of topics, are some observations from students, friends, and neighbors on dating culture among Mormons, and sometimes, others.
But some of those in the dating scene, especially those progressing into the fifth decade (and that fraction seems to be growing) may feel neglected to the point that dropping out feels inevitable.Two siblings, practically in elderly status (~30) are single and neither has had a serious boyfriend/girlfriend.A close friend from his youth married a short time ago, his new wife was his first serious relationship in over a decade.All un-coupled people are constantly being assessed and assessing—it creates a strange highly-charged atmosphere where men and women can’t just organically get to know each other, which is the norm in non-LDS dating.It also increases the isolation of single people, and can exacerbate and further cripple the ability to relate to the opposite sex as anything other than a potential partner.
Those norms seem to be 1) social exclusivity (dating) is a big deal because it seems to imply a willingness to move in together and/or perhaps eventually marry, and is not to be embarked upon lightly.