As this reader mentions, this predicament leads to a catch-22: you don’t want to freak potentially interesting people out before your first date, but waiting for a while to see what develops can lead to a person with MS feeling like they have been withholding information from the other person.
This situation can be especially stressful if you really like the other person and think it might develop into something more serious.
The second date is when some of the “real” stuff can come out.
No one really expects to find out about a bad credit score, a learning disability, a past broken engagement or weird food preferences on the first date.
There's no reason to feel embarrassed or awkward."There is a guy that I have been interested in for over a year who finally asked me out last month. " This situation is made a little more complicated when it comes to dating.We have gone on four dates – we have a lot of fun and really enjoy spending time together. I haven’t told him that I have multiple sclerosis, since I didn’t want to scare him off. We want to find a balance of honesty and reserve while trying to figure out how we feel about someone.Clearly if your date is a jerk you never want to see again, there's no need for the "big reveal."Some might advocate waiting until you truly know that you want to have a future with this person to tell him or her about your MS.Only know the specifics of your situation, so if you want to wait, that's fine.
By this time you've probably figured out that you want to continue seeing this person, and he or she will have discovered how great you are.